What I learned was that if one backbites(saying the truth about someone in way that he won't like it if he were present),slandering(lying),etc., on the Day Of Judgment, all of his good deeds externally will be given to those who he oppressed in the dun ya and will be given the sins of those people and thrown into Hell Fire. Way to avoid this is to never lie about someone when they're present or not, to never back bite about any one, to never oppress or abuse any creature or human, etc.
i learned from this video that if we do bad in this life we will be held accountable in the day of judgement for it.Also if you harm any creations like humans there will be consequences and a punishment you will get and not be able to deny(that you did it) and last not to talk about others or envy/hate one another because that means you envy one of Allah's creations which is a bug sin :)
sorry i meant that there will be a big sin not bug sin
I definitely agree with you Anisa, Allah knows a lot more than you. You don't have any excuses if you didn't do it or not. You are help accountable.
I think that what you are stating is in fact true Heba. However, I also think that there can be other ways that add onto your statement on how to stay away from those horrid actions. I think that you can try to stop yourself from committing the sin by stopping yourself first and analyze what you are about to say next. You can also try and stop others when you know that what they are saying is wrong and horrible to say about another person. And there are many others as well, but those are just a few.
I learned that we should stay away from backbiting because of all the good deeds we are giving away and all the bad deeds we are getting. I shudder when I hear that the bad deeds of the oppressed are given to you until your are taken and cast into Hell Fire. We can avoid verbal abuse by controlling ourselves around others, no matter how much you dislike them. Do not fall into the trap of the devil, as he will keep telling you and leading you into all these oral sins.
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a person with a mountain of good deeds might be left with none because of the people he slandered and backbit against.
I agree Ahmad we should try to stay away from it but these days no one really cares :(.
Most of the time people call others names to either be funny or they're just joking, but a lot of the times the person doesn't take what you told them as a joke. Also when your'e joking you should tell the truth and not use foul language.
I learned to always think before I do because if I backbite I have to remember the consequences before I do it. There is definitely consequences if u backbite like even if you do all your obligatory pillars and more it doesn't you go be mean to others or backbite about them. Or else if that happens all your good deeds (Most) will be given to the person you backbite and their bad deeds will be given to you. Also Slandering is not any better when you talk about a person talk as if they are there and if they would like it. A way to avoid these consequences is to think about the consequences and we also have to control ourselves before we do bad.
that's a really good tip salma!! if we think about the consequences, we may not do the action! and if you have the intention of doing a sin and you stop yourself, you will iA the hadith says “Whosoever intends to do a good deed but does not do it, Allah records it with Himself as a complete good deed; but if he intends it and does it, Allah records it with Himself as ten good deeds, up to seven hundred times, or more than that. But if he intends to do an evil deed and does not do it, Allah records it with Himself as a complete good deed; but if he intends it and does it, Allah records it down as one single evil deed.”
[Al-Bukhari & Muslim]
which shows that if you intened to do a bad deed but you stop yourself, Allah will count it as a good deed!
that is very inspirational amina, very inspirational!
Great point salma, we should always think before we act. Sometimes, we don't realize what we are doing until we have finished doing it.
I totally agree salma, that we will have consequences when we backbite and slander in the day of judgement.
I learnt from this video is that never backbite( talking behing other peoples back). Don't judje a person from his or her out ward appearance.
i learned from this video that even spreading the truth about a person is backbiting! how many times have we backbitten about a person?!!
this really scares me because it said that you will loose all your good deeds, and you will gain bad deeds or committing the sin, PLUS you will gain the bad deeds of those whom you oppressed!!
i will put my knowledge into action by thinking twice before saying something, if i were to say what i wanted to say to the person's face, how would they feel?!
i will try to follow the sunnah and not talk as much so that since i a not talking as much, i will have a lesser chance of talking bad about others in general.
I agree, we should be careful about what we say. We might call a person something, that seems small, but actually hurt them badly. We should definitely think twice about what we say and, see if just avoiding that comment, prevented a major issue.
I learned that this life is our ticket to Jennah. We should be aware of it and keep it safe at all times. We wouldn't want someone to steal our money, so we should guard our life. If we start backbiting, not only are we hurting another persons trust but, have ripped our ticket. Until we repent and apologize, it won't be fixed. When we backbite, everyone tends to make the conversation "juicy", so we might say something untrue. Inshallah nobody does this (or has), we would never tell people lies about our parents, like "My dad didn't brush his teeth" or "My mom lies to others", Astaghfirallah. So why would we spread the same rumors about others? If we did we just lost our ticket, dignity, and soo much more. We can avoid slandering and backbiting by just using the phrase T.H.I.N.K. It basically helps everyone's conversation to stay positive, and help guard our ticket to Jennah.
Wow, Mashallah!!! Good job connecting it to morning halaqa!!! Thanks for sharing!!!
From this video I learned how big of a sin slandering and backbiting really is. I always thought that backbiting and slandering didn't really effect our bad deeds and good deeds, but, WOW!!! There are so many things that can happen to our good deeds when we backbite or slander. Like for example, it is obvious that we get more bad deeds, but also we lose our salah, we lose our zakah, we lose our charity and so much more! Slandering and Backbiting are things that we know inside of us we do sometimes. We have to make sure that we watch our tongue and what we say because most of the time we don't even realize what we are saying and how it might effect others around us. We have to THINK (Is it: True, Helpful, Inspiring, Necessary, and Kind) before we speak. I also remembered that our tongue is also something that can be the cause for us not going to jannah. We actually talk so much that scientist figured out that a human talks so much that the words we say can fill up a 500 page book in a day!!! So try imagining at least a half or a quarter of that book being all backbiting and slandering. Now thats a really scary thought. When I speak I will make sure that I actually THINK before I speak and watch what I am saying.
I agree with every word Saarah!
Also, I read somewhere online (not sure if it is 100% true) that an average human spends 1/5 of his whole life TALKING.
That is seriously a lot.
I learned from this video that we should never backbite, slander, or abuse others. What's surprising is that some people just don't realize how much backbiting and slandering is going on especially in this age. Everybody is so into this life that they don't care if they backbite or slander. Backbiting is so dangerous that you can easily go to hellfire. This is why we should always be aware of what we say.
Very good point. This happens alot, especially in this generation.
Mashallah, this is true because sometimes when I'm talking i don't realize I am doing it until minutes later.
I agree with Ahmed, backbiting is extremely dangerous and we need to stay away from it at all costs. Backbiting not only gives away good deeds but you also get the backbitten person's bad deeds.
The first thing i need to say is that may Allah (SWT) protect us all from backbitting and slandering. Sometimes you might see someone that looks pious externally, but the true pious person is pious internally, as our beloved Prophet Muhammad (SAAWS) mentioned ibn the hadith. A way a person can avoid this is remembering Allah (SWT). When you remember Him, then you will remember that Allah (SWT) doesn't like backbitting, and that it is a major sin, so you won't do it.
Ameen, ya rabbal 'alameen
From this video, I have learned that we should never backbite. We shouldn't backbite, not only because it's forbidden in Islam but because it also harms you and the other person, so there's no win-win. When you backbite about someone, you get their bad deeds, and they get your good deeds. In conclusion, not only does backbiting hurt people in the Akhira, but it also hurts people in this life. When you backbite about someone, they will eventually find out and become very hurt.
On really important thing that I learned was that with backbiting all of or good deeds, salah and other pious acts are gone
That's a really important point Fatima!
A deed like backbiting which we think is small could have a HUGE impact on our deeds and where we go in the afterlife.
Backbiting has lots of its own consequences besides affecting the rest of our deeds. If you backbite about someone, they take a number of your good deeds (Allah decides how many). And if you're out of good deeds and you still owe them more, you start taking THEIR bad deeds.
I'd say it's pretty simple to piece all of that together into one simple statement:
Do not backbite, because if you do, it will NOT be pretty for YOU.
And when you backbite, you are literally biting the back of your dead Muslim brother/sister. So you're biting someone's back, that person is also DEAD, and they're your brother/sister.
I think we can all agree to stay away from backbiting.
Yes, you're right Sarah! We should always think ahead of time. If we KNOW we're going to commit a sin, and get our good deeds taken away from us...would we really do it? It's really not worth it...
Yup . when we backbute, every good act we done, has gona away,, thats how bad it is.
I learned to be more careful about backbiting and slandering. On the day of judgement we will be held accountable and we wont have any excuses because Allah warned us to be careful about backbiting.
Yeah, also your deeds will be taken away and given to that person you opressed
what i learned was that as everybody said, backciting is terrible. however, what really stuk out to me was #1, the actual definition of backbiting is to tell the truth of someone behind their back. another thing is that backbiting can take away all your good deeds, and even give you more bad ones.
i just had another general reflection that i wanted to share ...
we all know the famous qote of dont judge a book by its cver. in this day and age though, peopel dont follow that. this isnt good at all because as the sheykh mentioned, if someone who looks pious backbites, he could actually go to hellfire
I agree with you Musa, nice reflection!!!!!!:)
Great Moosa!!! Just Great!!! Nice reflection!!!
One thing I learned is that I should always be wairy of what I am saying, because I might end up backbiting, which will give me a lot of sins. This may result in going to hell fire.
i learned that if you backbite then your deeds go to those who were opprest and if you run ought of good deeds than you get there bad deeds
I would say that the easiest way to not fall into this sin is to stay clean and pure and pious form the inside. You shouldn't spend time worrying about what shows on the outside, because if you are pure from the inside, it will automatically show on the outside. Also, your tongue is a reflection of what is inside of you, and how you feel inwardly. So be careful about what you feel in your heart.
You can also keep purifying yourself through the remembrance of Allah. It may be a small act, but it definitely helps.
I agree with you, Sarah!;)
Well the video was speaking on backbiting and slandering and how on the Day of Judgment our good deeds will be given to those whom we spoke bad to/about. A way you stop this horrible action is pretty simple. All one needs to do is watch their words/language before they speak because often when people say something they don't even know what they are saying. So please watch your words before you speak. Enjoy.........................!
I learned from this video that you should never backbite or slendering. The video was generally talking about harming others. Amoungst what was mentioned, he had siad that backbiting is still the TRUTH but being siad about a person in their absense in a way they will not like it.
Slendering is different, its when you tell a lie about someone when they are not there. He also mentions its consequences, which is getting all of your deeds taken away or a measured amount is given to the person who you talked about behind their backs. Even the most pois person can go to the hellfire because of backbiting or slandering.
i learned that if you backbite then all your deeds will be given to the one that backbited on
I learned that backbiting and slandering have a lot more consequences than I thought! Not only do you get your good deeds taken away, but you also get the oppressed person's bad deeds as well! Plus, your zakat, salah and more gets taken away.
Backbiting and slandering is like eating your dead brother's flesh...disgusting!
We shouldn't backbite about others, listen to it or watch others do it.
To avoid backbiting, we should consider the consequences of it and what might happen in the HereAfter.
If we think about saying something and we don't, we will get good deeds instead of taking our words back and not saying it!
I agree with you Hibah, because sometimes we don't even realize that we are backbiting and don't realize how bad that act is, yet once we learn the consequences of that sin, we could be reflecting back and answering to a LIFETIME of comments and conversations behind people's backs on the Day of Judgment.
In this video about slandering I had learnt about many things connecting to the concept of truth. Within the video they had spoken of backbiting and how it is worse than lying. Although you are speaking the truth about someone, would you say that in front of that person? This is backbiting. Sometimes people backbite about others without even knowing. What I have done to try and prevent myself from doing this action is put myself in the place of the person being talked about. I would put myself into the shoes of that person and wonder if I would be happy if someone had said something like that about me. Also, I would think about if Allah (SWT) would appreciate it if I say those words, if I backbite, would he be happy or disappointed with me? In all, no one should backbite or be rude to others in any which way. Because even if that person cannot hear you, Allah (SWT) can.
Watching this video really made me ponder on something that was mentioned in it, when he said that in this day and age, the only conversations we become focused on are gossip, slander, and backbiting yet most of the time, we don't even realize it. This is very scary, because if we don't acknowledge our sins in this world, we will have to answer for them on the Day of Judgment, by not only giving away our good deeds to the people we oppressed, but also taking the peoples' good deeds of whom we consumed money from. One can avoid falling into the trap of committing this horrible sin by first imagining the analogy mentioned in the video that if we had a sack of gold coins and someone warns us about robbers, we wouldn't want to expose the coins or give them away. The same goes for backbiting and slandering; this video is warning us about backbiting and slandering, so we wouldn't want to be exposing and giving away all of our good deeds for doing this act. We can also protect ourselves from this sin by realizing the horrible consequences that will fall upon us on the Day of Judgement like giving away all of our good deeds, and on top of that, taking the peoples' sins from them until you are sent to Jahannam, and then there will be no way of getting out of the situation that you got yourself into. If we remember this right now and repent to Allah, then IA He will forgive us and rom now on, we can always be aware of what comes out of our mouths.
Something that stood out to me in this video was when he said, that when you backbite your Salah, zakat, and good deeds are given away. A way for someone to avoid backbiting is to constantly repent, make Dua and remember that Allah SWT is watching.
I learned that even if you are the best person, gave plenty of zakah, prayed all salah and sunnah, if you backbite, you will lose all of it. The person who you are backbiting about gets all your good deeds, and when your good deeds are done, you start to take that persons bad deeds. You can avoid it by never discussing anything about anyone when they aren't there. If you don' have anything good to say, then don't say anything at all.
From this very deep video, it really reinforced that out good deeds are given away to the person we are slandering!! Our pile becomes smaller and smaller while theirs grows. This was very scary and deep to think about. One way we can prevent ourselves id checking our friends. We may think our friends are great, but we slowly become more and more like them. In some cases this is ok, but if you can see that your friends hurt others, then don't be their friend! Unfortunately is this day and age gossiping and slander is a very EASY trap to fall into. None of us here can say we have never even by accident fell into gossip. Its hard to prevent but we have to try harder. Another way to prevent it to not be a bystander!! Don't stand there listening, tell them its wrong, or if you can't do that at least walk away!
Inshallah we can learn from this,
Even if you are highly respected with a high status, a person who gives a lot, prays a lot, fasts a lot, remembers Allah a lot, doesn't mean you cannot make a mistake. And a mistake that can slip out of your mouth is backbiting. Something in which many people do every day, is something very dangerous. The video taught me that even if you do a lot of good deeds. Doesn't mean you can't make a mistake. That backbiting is the worst thing a person can do. Something that will throw you into hell fire.
InshAllah Allah protects us from the Shatan and keeps us away from these horrible acts. (Ameen)
Just the word makes me cringe and shiver in disgust, disappointment, and fear.
The thing is, it's not even hard to fall into the hole of backbiting and start to subconsciously talk bad about someone behind their backs.
It's a scary thing to do, and sometimes we recognize that we are doing the sin, but do we stop it, do we walk away if we can"t stop it? No. And that's a sad thought to think about.
It's not just sad, but it's disappointing to know that we have done such a horrid deed, that we have done one of the worst things a person can do.
I wish I could go back in time and go to each and every time I have ever backbited about someone, but that's not the reality. I regret every time I have ever opened my mouth and ugly words have come out of it.
And what's even worse is that some of us, actually most of us, can't remember all the times that we have ever done such a horrible deed.
However, like I have stated preciously we cannot go back in time, so we need to move forward, learn from our mistakes, and implement the lessons into our lives.
We must learn to bite our tongues, and if it helps to not just do it in a figurative manner, but in a physical manner, then do just that.
We need to learn that we can be better then this.
We can ask for forgiveness from the people we have wronged, and go to Allah (swt) as well, but we need to learn to not fall back onto the action ever again either inshallah.
You shouldn't back bite because you will get bad deeds. As we all know If you back bite and then the person you told will tell someone else and then you will get that persons bad deeds. So don't talk about someone unless they are there or unless you are saying something good about them.
Backbiting is very bad, but slandering is even worse.For backbiting, even if your speaking the truth, its still bad becasue if that person was there, they would not like what you said. If you backbite, immediatley your salah, zakaat and other stuff get taken away. But slandering is a lot worse. If you make up a lie about that person that is bad, that is slandering.we must try really hard not to do either, becasue it is very easy to fall in the trap.u always have to think before u speak. and if u have nothing good to say, dont say anything just keep it to urself.
After watching this video, i realized that backbiting is worse than many of us think. Its when you talk about someone behind their back (the truth) when they are not present and if they were, they would not like it. Backbiting can cause people to go to hell fire because if a person prays and does all their 5 pillars but backbites, the ones who were oppressed can take their good deeds on the day of judgment therefore causing them to have no good deeds left. Many people may have the best iman and islam but backbiting can put that all to waste so we should watch what we say. If someone wants to slander than we have to tell them to stop because the punishment is not worth it.
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I agree and it is pretty scary to think that even the most pious person can be totally different inside and vice versa. Backbiting can affect everyone of us without us realizing.
I learned that even though we might have a great amount of good deeds, slandering or back biting can strip all those good deeds away and put us in the hell fire. so slandering or back biting is not worth the punishment of Allah SWT.
What i learned from watching this video is that some people might think it is fine to backbite about someone else because your telling the truth about that person, but if that person was right in front of you, then you wouldn't talk bad about them. When you backbite about people all the good deeds you have from praying, charity, fasting, and doing other good things are now given to the person you were talking about. It's not worth losing everything you earned just to say one or more things about someone you don't like.
What I learned from this video is that we shouldn't backbite or slander (lie) and if we do we will be held accountable for it on the day of judgement. All of our good deeeds will be given to those we have oppressed. If we don't have enough good deeds or if we don't have any at all we will not be able to enter Jannah but instead we will enter Jahanaam (la qadir allah). One way we can avoid this is not to go near the people we know we won't like and will talk badly about. This way if we do avoid them we won't talk badly about them or start to lie about them either. Another way is to hold our tongue because we will also be held accountable for that on the Day of Judgement.
This shows why back biting and slandering are wrong. It realy shows that no matter how much Sallah on prays and how much Quran one reads that he can still lose lots of his good deeds from backbiting and slandering. One can avoid falling the grave sin by trying to keep a habit of not judging others.
What I learned from this video is that backbiting can basically destroy all of your good deeds. You can be the most pious person in the world but backbiting will destroy all that. Stay away from backbiting and your deeds will be saved.
Many times I unintentionally or intentionally fall into the sin of backbiting. I know that i shouldnt but sometimes its really hard to stop. That is why i think that if you are surrounded by good friend/wise friends, then you can avoid this sin. Also, if you tell your friends to always stop you from continuing if you accidentally start backbiting then that will lessen your chance of backbiting again. Mainly, i think in order to avoid this dreadful sin you should have good company.
What I learned from this video IN THE DAY OF JUDGEMENT we will be held accountable upon your self because if you back bite on any body all of your good deeds well given away all of there sins will go to you then after that you we'll be casted out into hell fire.
Masha Allah this was a powerful video.
I admit occasionally I do backbite, many of us do. I am working hard to stop. Because why do we slander and backbite? To build our reputation, to see the reaction on others faces. So would we sacrifice a mountain of good deeds and another person's dignity for a few seconds of shallow enjoyment? If we stand on the day of judgement as a backbiter with a mountain of good deeds, thinking you will make it to hannah, only to realize the line of people you slandered about waiting to take their share of your good deeds..... False hope does hurt. So InshaAllah we all try to refrain from this shameful act.
I learned that even if you backbite while the person is not present, you still get bad deeds.You can avoid getting grave sins by not talking bad about someone behind there back.If they did something bad ,then in private you can tell them nicely that they did something wrong and tell them not to do it again
i learned that when we backbit or slander we will punished in the day of judgement and that all your good deeds will go to those who you were backbiting about. also that backbiting has become something that we all do a lot know a days. also if we are talking about someone not in a bad way and that person is not present and you know that they wouldn't like you talking about it that is also considered backbiting. away we can prevent/avoid doing this is to try to keep away from a conversation that is going to lead to backbiting and try to control yourself o not backbiting as well.
i agree Jena because we should always remember that if we backbite about somebody, they get all of your good deeds.
If one hopes to hold his good deeds, then he must refrain from backbiting. While you are harming the person in this life, you are ultimately benefiting him in the next life. What life is more important?
Why would someone backbite? Your opinions are yours alone. Don't taint other people's thoughts with your negative thoughts. Control yourself. Even if what you say is true, It doesn't mean that it is good to say. It is even worse to make it sound worse, as this is called slander.
We all know that backbiting is a grave sin. I learned about the punishment when i was very young, so I didn't understand it. Now i'm older and I understand and i'm thinking to myself in complete awe, "WOW so your doomed if you backbite." But Allah (SWT) is the most forgiving so he will forgive insha'Allah. Now how one can avoid doing it in the first place is by thinking, would I say this in front of them? would I say it with them around? If it's a no then don't say it.
I forgot the 6A part :P
I learned that backbiting and slandering can make you go to hell even if you prayed every single prayer and made dua and always remembered and praised Allah then just a little backbiting can get you to be a bankrupt person like the prophet mentioned.
I learned that backbiting is haram even if it is the truth about someone, and if you are someone who always prays, reads the Quran and etc., if you backbite about someone, in the day of judgement you will not be among the good believers. Next time when we are about to backbite about someone, put yourself in their shoes and think about how you would feel if someone is talking bad about you and hopefully it will stop you from backbiting.
I was thinking about how if I just backbite once all my hard earned good deeds will vanish in less then a moment. A way I can avoid this is to T.H.I.N.K before I speak or put myself in others' shoes.
Watching this video reminded that backbiting is a very deadly thing. Before reminding others I need to remind my self that T.H.I.N.K before i speak. Is it true, helpful, necessary, or kind?
I would also like to share another very simple way to think before I say anything: the triple filter. Before saying anything i need to stop and think:
Is what I'm saying is true?
Is it good?
Is it useful?
full story is at this link http://www.islamcan.com/islamic-stories/the-triple-filter-test.shtml#.UySiuMRDuuI
I need to be aware of what I say, because what i say can lead me to hell fire.
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This video shows me that although we may not realize it, bad mouthing someone is one of the worst possible sins that we can do. Even if this life may seem like all fun and games to you every action is accounted for on the Day of Judgment. So even if you do a lot of good deeds they would all be wasted away if we gossip, backbite, and/or slander. It is important to think before we speak.
I learned tha people commonly beleive that bankruptcy means losing money. While rthat is true, in Islam it means to lose all your good deeds, mainly cuz of backbiting. Its tempting to backbite, but if i would insult someone i would say it to their facee, but thats no excuse to insult. just tell them nicely.
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